The music snob characters in the film "High Fidelity" agreed that "what you like" is more important than "what you are like." That is, be as much of a jerk or non-achiever yourself as you like, so long as you have exquisite taste and adore the right things.
Examples: the unemployed beer snob and the obese bodybuilding fan.
You see why this is a tempting philosophy. It is MUCH easier to spend an
hour on the internet adoring photos of your bodybuilding heroes (and
clicking Like under their pics) than it is to go to the gym. And, as
for the unemployed beer snob, well, exquisite taste is free.
Having been a fan of the female physique sports since 1984, I have
noticed a curious phenomenon exhibited by the more ardent fans: they
completely believe that their adoration is a gift to the athlete that
(1) sets them apart from the other fans; and (2) makes them instantly
attractive (as a person) to the athlete.
But I find that this
type of adoration of the works and beauty of others is a trap. It frees
you (or so you fancy) from having to accomplish or BE anything
yourself. But that "freedom" is actually a slavery to mediocrity. I
believe that adoration in moderation is okay, but beyond that, cut it
out and go make something worthy of yourself.